- Shenae Gillespie for The Romp Magazine
- India Reynolds is sultry for Page 3
- Monday Hot Links
- Charlotte McKinney incredibly sexy and see through
yesterday, Davido posted a photo of his new born baby on instagram and
many blogs led by Linda believed it was the child of his sister Sharon,
who is equally pregnant, but no! they got it wrong, infact the baby is
Davido's and he welcomed her with his girlfriend for now, sophie, peep
photos of the couple below and the baby too:
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Kenyan music star and Chocolate City artist Victoria Kimani has gotten herself a new body artwork.
Showing
off the new ink on Snapchat and Instagram, Victoria Kimani shared a
video of her getting the tattoo done as well as a closeup picture of the
tattoo – which is a map of Africa.
William Ifeanyi Moore: Functionality vs Companionship
So…I
was reading up on some history (as you do over the weekend because it’s
super fun), when I stumbled upon how marriage was viewed in 17th
century France (which wasn’t very different from how the rest of the
world viewed it). Back then the whole point of marriage was for
functionality. Of course in Africa polygamy was still the order of the
day considering the Missionaries had not come to convince us otherwise.
Needless to say, marriage then was primarily about functionality. For
men it was permissible to keep concubines, and as for women…well women
have always been sexually and emotionally restricted. But the point is
that people married for reasons like expanding family wealth,
strengthening tribal ties, and other such ideas. Today, no one would
admit that the wealth present in their spouse’s life of family plays
even the slightest role in our decision to marry them. In fact, it is
seen as ‘uncool’ to say you want to marry someone for any reason besides
being absolutely in love with them. We are supposed to deny all
functional advantage of the arrangement so as not to come off as gold
diggers or luxury seekers.
Unfortunately
no one has ever paid a bill with love, and even more unfortunately,
love is not the drug we think it is. Ask any married person and they
will tell you, the high doesn’t last forever. Instead it is cyclical in
nature. It rises and dips like an oscillation graph (see Google or your
secondary school physics textbook). When it is at the high point (we’ve
all been there), all is rosy like paradise found its way to earth, and
then it dips are like a cold gust of wind a strange reality dawns of you
that no human can ever fill that void of existential loneliness
(forgive my big grammar, I didn’t know what other phrase to use). At
this point the functionality of the relationship will be put to test.
This is where someone will tell you something like ‘I know you love me,
but love won’t put our children through school’. You get the picture.
Regardless
of how much we try to deny it in the name of political correctness or
whatever term you choose to use, there is a functional part of
relationship that cannot be filled with love and we have to start facing
up to this. Yes, companionship is important. It is good to have shared
interests and ideas as they make for wonderful conversation, but denying
a need to be functional in the name of love is just setting yourself up
for something bad. Though gender roles might be blurring as we progress
as a culture, they roles still exist even if they aren’t gender
specific anymore. Take cooking for example: a woman’s place might no
longer be in the kitchen, but someone has to cook because the family
isn’t gonna survive on solar energy. A man’s role might have moved on
from provider, but until manna starts falling from heaven again,
somebody has to put food on the table.
You
will be shocked to see the amount of people going into marriages
without the slightest clue to how they will get through the most
functional tasks of living, only to get into domestic wars later over
whose turn it is to wash the dishes. The fact that co-habitation is
still very much frowned upon before marriage also rules out the
opportunity to simulate what living with someone would feel like.
Sometimes it’s all perfect from a distance and then people move in
together and all hell breaks loose.
In
this age of extreme romanticism it has never been more important to
step back and look at the more functional parts of our relationship
before we commit to something we cannot sustain.
So
next time you find yourself love stoned over a girl/guy, ask yourself:
If I actually wasn’t in love with this person, would I be able to live
with them. If the answer is no…well…the answer is no.
P.S Love is never enough.
#TrekforGEJ: Trekker’s Female Companion is Back! | The Pair Arrive in Uromi, Edo State
Oladele John Nihi‘s #TrekforGEJ is getting more interesting! You will recall that a woman named Gloria, joined him on his journey, but later quit, after her family became worried about her well-being.
Well, Gloria is back! And she has resumed trekking with Oladele.
The pair are currently in Uromi in Edo State, and are closer than ever to their destination – President Goodluck Jonathan‘s hometown, Otuoke in Bayelsa State.
Here are some recent updates on their journey:
Medici by Sujimoto brings you classic but yet modern architecture. Sujimoto, known for flawless finishing, has captured the essence of luxury living in this property tour.
Be
sure to watch the video featured and get lost within the realms of
Medici; once again brought to you by Sujimoto Construction.
There
are seven beautifully designed terrace apartments with four bedrooms in
each. Not forgetting the undeniably state of the art features:- 24 hours uninterrupted power
- Centralized CCTV system with armed security
- Ample parking space
- Italian fitted kitchen with double door refrigerator, oven, dishwasher and a microwave.
- High quality bathroom wares
- Well-equipped gymnasium
- Rooftop lounge with Jacuzzi
- 80% Marble building
- Annual complimentary Internet service
- Comaxx Video Intercom – you can see both security gate and your door
- Built-in Nuvo speakers that can be controlled from your Nuvo app; multi-level controls
- Recess lighting throughout the house
- Private landscaped garden